Take control of the outcomes in your life. Nowadays there are easy ways to figure out if you, yourself, are the biggest obstacle to success.
Coaches and success strategists advocate for and collaborate with people who want to accomplish significant outcomes. They work with people to drive strategy and action until they overcome the obstacles to success and achieve the results they desire.
When customers take control of their results, they rapidly realize what the strategist already knows: they are their most valuable asset!
Some people naturally gravitate toward that awareness, while others welcome it as a new way of looking at themselves. Then there are individuals who must first confront the fact that they’ve been acting in the exact opposite way.
In other words, they themselves have been the personal liability to their own achievement. Which of the two are you?
Here are seven short questions to see if you are your own biggest obstacle to success. If that’s the case, don’t panic — identifying it is the first step toward creating a new, more positive reality. It is always possible to start now to maximize your potential for success.
Question 1: Do you evade or refuse to take responsibility for your actions?
Is there anyone whom you can trust to tell you the truth? Who can tell you the truth, question your reasoning, or challenge your commitment? Who can provide you with feedback, direction, and guidance?
If the response is “few” or “no one,” you may be on a road to a disaster that you aren’t even aware of.
Accountability is linked to success. Therefore, if you’re willing to be answerable to no one, you’ve effectively elected to just listen to and be guided by your own voice.
This short-sightedness can work against you over time since it positions you as one of the obstacles to success.
Question 2: Do you place low importance on finishing?
Finishers are more likely to be successful.
Yes, they may opt to let things go, turn a corner, or even change directions now and then. However, their overall pattern is to finish what they start and finish well.
Whatever the explanation, suppose you have a history of failing to cross the finish line. Or what if you often find yourself giving up before attaining the results you want.
If that is the case, you should consider how this habit is impeding your achievement.
Question 3: Is your lack of success always someone else fault?
If you find yourself blaming others and pointing the finger instead of asking “What do I need to accept responsibility for?” you may be one of your own obstacles to success.
Therefore, taking ownership is a powerful position.
Now is the time to see these things, if not everything, as a chance to learn and grow. This will undoubtedly enhance your leadership potential.
In addition, it shows your ability to take responsibility when things go wrong. Furthermore, it showcases your ownership of your own success.
Question 4: Do you have any success-sabotaging tendencies?
Do you let fear or uncertainty induce you to muck things up before they become messed up in other ways? Do you often do this when you appear to be on the right track?
In addition, do you believe you are undeserving of nice things? Further, do you take measures to ensure that good things don’t stay good, for you?
You and your attitude may be one of the biggest obstacles to success if you find yourself predicting negative results, waiting for the other shoe to drop, or engaging in actions that ultimately meet negative expectations.
Therefore, start practicing a positive mindset, especially where your personal achievement is concerned. Write down and talk daily about your positive expectations. This has been proven to be one of the most powerful methods of positive change.
Question 5: Are you comfortable with indecisiveness and/or passivity?
But here’s the thing: real indecision or passivity don’t exist! Doing nothing is still a decision to do something.
Contrary to popular belief, indecision is actually a forfeit decision. Therefore, when you choose to be passive, you’re essentially giving up your ability to actively influence the outcome through your own contribution.
As a result, even a forfeit is an active choice. It becomes a decision to give up control of your influence.
Therefore, if your regular method of operation is passivity or the illusion of not making a decision, you may be obstructing your own success.
Question 6: Do you want respect…but not accountability?
The responsibilities of successful people are one of the reasons that people look up to them.
Their accountability to their direct reports, colleagues, employees, families, customers, and communities, among other things, is frequently what earns them respect.
Now consider this. How many successful people do you know who have little or no responsibilities? Exactly.
Therefore, if you try to avoid commitment and responsibility at all costs, you may be one of the biggest obstacles to success.
Question 7: Do you believe that success comes before work?
“The only time you’ll ever see success come before work is in the dictionary,” master pianist Quincy Jones once said.
Mr. Jones gets a gold star for his insight! It takes effort to achieve and maintain success in both your career and personal lives.
What you put in is, for the most part, a good predictor of what you’ll get out. You could be resistant to accept terms and phrases like resilience, develop, grow, mastery, learn, pay dues, stretch, get back up, or press toward the mark.
If hard work and failure are not options for you as part of your success journey…then guess what?